Month: May 2022

For as long as I can remember, people have sought me out for help, for advice, for aid in a troubling situation or in just general counseling. I’m a coach. It’s what I do. It’s very flattering that people seem to think I have it […]

It’s a phase. All of it. Not just with your kids or your job. But also with whatever the cultural or political moment is. Even the climate of hate, fear, violence and divisiveness we are currently mired in.  Pain itself is a phase–one that will […]

One of the best friends I’ve ever had passed away recently, and I went to pay my last respects to him, and his wife and family. I said goodbye for the last time and it hurts to know I will never see him again. As […]

Self-worth is not self-esteem. Self-esteem is derived from our abilities, accomplishments, social status, and popularity at any given point in time. We bolster our self-esteem by achieving perceived successes, and our self-esteem goes up and down depending on how we’re feeling about various aspects of […]

I think the Beatles got it wrong. I think it’s a great song, but “love is all you need” doesn’t ring true to me. I think trust is more important. Ive loved many people. But that love dies when they violate my trust. It’s usually […]

“ I can’t win”. I’ve always been puzzled by people that need to “ win” in relationships or in friendships, as if life was a zero-sum game. There’s a distinct difference between a person that “seems to win” as opposed to actually winning. It may […]