Author: CarmA

Someone wounds you, so you want to wound them back. With a harsh remark. By cutting them out of your inner circle. By putting the word out about them. Maybe they hold an awful political view or have done something selfish or mean. So you […]

Nobodytoldthehummingbird.com “In every movie I watch from the ’50s​There’s only one thought that swirls​Around my head now​And that’s that everyone there on the screen​Yeah, everyone there on the screen​Well, they’re all dead now​They’re all dead now” -Death Cab For Cutie That’s what I try to […]

When I Am Done When i am done, i am done with everything! I am done with giving reasons, informing people about my decisions. So I just leave and go silent. It isnt passive/ aggressive.. it’s over and done.. And when I care, I wish […]

Every minute of every day, thoughts pop into your head. About what’s happening. About other people. About yourself. About what you see. About what you feel. What are you supposed to do with all these thoughts? Well, the one thing you’re not supposed to do […]

“The Universe has decided to send some classes your way and you’re going to have to learn from past mistakes if you want to make the most of what’s in store for you” We’ve all received these emails and junk texts from Fortune tellers , […]

   People will come in and out of your life like passengers traveling on a train. When you are young and naïve and innocent, it  seems like everyone is traveling to the same destination as you are – Until you realize they are […]

For as long as I can remember, people have sought me out for help, for advice, for aid in a troubling situation or in just general counseling. I’m a coach. It’s what I do. It’s very flattering that people seem to think I have it […]

It’s a phase. All of it. Not just with your kids or your job. But also with whatever the cultural or political moment is. Even the climate of hate, fear, violence and divisiveness we are currently mired in.  Pain itself is a phase–one that will […]

One of the best friends I’ve ever had passed away recently, and I went to pay my last respects to him, and his wife and family. I said goodbye for the last time and it hurts to know I will never see him again. As […]

Self-worth is not self-esteem. Self-esteem is derived from our abilities, accomplishments, social status, and popularity at any given point in time. We bolster our self-esteem by achieving perceived successes, and our self-esteem goes up and down depending on how we’re feeling about various aspects of […]